The COVID-19 lockdowns have meant that many people are struggling with loneliness and a sense of isolation. A recent study, done before the pandemic hit, examined the kinds of qualities people who were less negatively affected by being alone tended to possess.
Loneliness — feeling isolated and not having enough meaningful connections to other people — is known to be bad for your health.
There’s a hedge against loneliness, though: Feeling empathy and compassion for others.
Researchers, from the University of California San Diego School of Medicine and the University of Rome La Sapienza, found that feelings of loneliness went down as measures of wisdom went up.
“People with higher scores on a measure of wisdom were less lonely and vice versa,” said the lead investigator in the U.S., Dilip V. Jeste, Distinguished Professor of Psychiatry and Neurosciences at UC San Diego School of Medicine. “Loneliness was consistently associated with poor general health, worse quality of sleep and less happiness, whereas the reverse was generally true for wisdom.”
The team used the UCLA Loneliness Scale and San Diego Wisdom Scales and applied them to two age groups in both locations: adults age 50 to 65 and those older than age 90 in both Cilento and in San Diego. The rating scales for loneliness and wisdom were translated from English to Italian for that part of the study. Wisdom was measured as a combination of empathy, compassion, self-reflection and emotional regulation.
Wisdom was measured as a combination of empathy, compassion, self-reflection and emotional regulation.
The same inverse correlation between loneliness and wisdom was found in all four groups, with scores on empathy and compassion having the strongest reverse relationship with loneliness. People who were more compassionate were less lonely.
The findings suggest ways to improve a person’s overall life satisfaction and happiness. “If we can increase someone's compassion, wisdom is likely to go up and loneliness is likely to go down,” added David Brenner, vice chancellor of UC San Diego Health Sciences.
Studies that examine how to decrease loneliness as people age could lead to effective interventions, Jeste said. “Routine assessment of loneliness with evidence-based, compassion-focused interventions for prevention and management of loneliness should become an integral part of clinical practice.”
So how do you increase compassion? Jeste suggests cognitive behavioral therapy or writing in a gratitude diary as two ways to become more compassionate and less lonely.
The study is published in Aging & Mental Health.