The aisles of our brick-and-mortar and online bookstores are filled with self-help books. So how does one choose among the hundreds of titles on any given subject — anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, stress or the conduct disorders of childhood?
You seek the advice of experts.
Self-Help That Works, Fourth Edition by John C. Norcross, Ph.D., Linda F. Campbell, Ph.D., John M. Grohol, PsyD, John W. Santrock, Ph.D., Florin Selagea, M.S., and Robert Sommer, Ph.D is a reference book. Not only will it direct you to some of the best self-help books, autobiographies, films, support groups, online programs and websites on a huge range of topics in emotional health and relationships, it will help you avoid the duds.
You can probably find it in your local library, but if you tend to shop for the subjects Self-Help That Works, Fourth Edition covers, you may want to purchase it yourself. It will likely save you both money and missed opportunities.
Each entry in a Self-Help That Works is rated based on national studies of mental health professionals from around the country over the past twenty years using a scale of one to five stars (the best) down to a dagger (at least 10 mental health professionals had given the book, film, site etc., a negative rating). In short, the ratings in Self-Help That Works go well beyond personal opinion and are considerably more valuable than scanning jacket copy online or in the bookstore.
Here's a sample of some of their recommendations from the chapter on Anger.
In this chapter, we present the ratings and descriptions of anger self-help books and Internet resources, respectively.
**** Letting Go of Anger: The Ten Most Common Anger Styles and What to Do about Them (1995) by Ron Potter-Efron and Pat Potter-Efron. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
The authors take a systematic approach to identifying and treating types of anger, often using cognitive-behavioral strategies. A questionnaire allows readers to categorize them- selves into anger styles: masked anger, explosive anger, or chronic anger. Each chapter fur- ther describes several ways of manifesting anger within each of the three primary styles. Clarity and conciseness are strengths of this self-help resource. Each chapter outlines the characteristics of the anger style, typical examples of how the anger plays out, and remedies for counteracting anger. The suggested treatments are understandable and easily conducted by nonprofessionals.
**** Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion (revised and updated, 1989) by Carol Tavris. New York: Touchstone.
This excellent self-help book covers the wider terrain of anger and its manifestations. Indeed, it is hard to come up with any facet of anger—from wrecked friendships to wars— that Tavris does not address. The revised and updated edition includes new coverage of highway anger, violence in sports, young women’s anger, and family anger, and it suggests strategies for getting through specific anger problems. The book consists of 10 entertain- ing chapters. In the first several chapters, Tavris debunks a number of myths about anger and highlights anger’s cultural rules. She persuasively argues that “letting it all out” is not the best solution for defusing anger and effectively coping with stress. She dislikes pop- psychology approaches that tell people that anger is buried within them, and she argues that such notions are dangerous to the mental health of participants and to the social health of the community. She also sharply criticizes psychotherapy approaches that are based on the belief that inside every tranquil soul is a furious person screaming to get out. Later chapters present helpful ideas about anger in marital relationships and situations involving justice. In the final two chapters, Tavris tells readers how to rethink anger and make more adaptive choices. The book is well researched, and Tavris’s delivery is witty and eloquent. People wanting to cope more effectively with the anger in their lives will find this book a welcome tonic.
This psychology topic from the American Psychological Association (APA) offers sev- eral articles about anger, as well as related resources on violence and bullying.
***** How Can I Deal With My Anger? kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/emotions/ deal_with_anger.html
This well-designed site from the Nemours Foundation is targeted to teenagers and kids, to help them better understand and recognize their anger. It also provides tips and advice on how to express and cope with angry feelings more effectively.
**** How to Deal with Anger www.mind.org.uk/help/diagnoses_and_conditions/ dealing_with_anger
A helpful single page from the U.K . charity Mind that helps people understand their anger, how to express it in a more healthy manner, and what to do with angry feelings.
*** Using Anger Management for Stress Relief stress.about.com/od/relationships/a/ anger_manage.htm
The About.com Stress Management site offers some good, accessible articles about anger management.